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Teaching Children “Soft Skills”

While the ultimate goal of parenting is to prepare these little humans to be successful, happy, and fulfilled adults it seems that more and more, parents are taking the opportunity away for their children to develop the skills necessary to accomplish goals of lifelong success, happiness and fulfillment.  The terms “helicopter parenting” and “overprotective” become more and more frequent and, as an educator I have seen the negative impact of this shift on my students over the years.  As a mom, though, I am mostly unsure how to avoid it.  I want to give my kiddos every opportunity and worry that the things they miss will have a great impact.  This article by Peter Davidson (Mariamontessori.com) is really wonderful in reminding us that “soft skills” are the things our kiddos really need in their tool box to successfully and confidently pursue lives of happiness and fulfillment (let alone be successful college students!)

Happy Reading,
Britney

I had an interesting conversation with a prospective parent recently who teaches at a local college. She shared that she and her colleagues are constantly discussing “how underprepared kids are for college in terms of ‘soft skills.’” By soft skills she meant skills other than the purely academic — the personal qualities, habits and attitudes that make someone a successful college student and, by extension, a good boss or employee later in life. She had just come from an observation in toddlers and primary and was surprised to have seen that in Montessori, “starting in toddlers students develop the self-motivation, independence, and follow-through that many college students lack!” In other words, beginning at these very young ages, Montessori children are already developing the soft skills that will benefit them so greatly later in life.

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Parenting Young Children through Fear

The things we hope to teach our children seem to be countless and I have discovered that just when I think I have overcome one parenting hurdle, immediately following that nice pat on the back, I find another hurdle standing in my way.  Fortunately, we live in a day and age where accessing helpful information can be so easy.  While it can be hard to rifle through all the information that is available and decipher the good information from the bad information, as long as we stick to our guiding set of principles, we can find some truth and some support in a variety of wonderful places.  I always like to share some of my favorites…especially from the list of things that we never even realize we will face as parents.

Children’s fears are ongoing.  How do we teach our children self-soothing, positive self-talk, how to recognize their true feelings, and, most importantly what to do with their fears to become better and more resilient humans? My 13 year old son’s fears have shifted…gone are the days of monsters under the bed.  I am discovering that helping him develop his own set of guiding principles becomes increasingly important with each passing day.  The Fred Rogers article below gives some helpful insight to helping young children through their fears.

Enjoy,
Britney

Parents want their children to be afraid of some things, because fears can keep children from doing dangerous things. But we don’t want our children to develop irrational fears that hold them back from doing healthy things, sleeping well, and making friends.

Part of our “job” as parents is to help our children feel safe and secure. Sometimes it can be very frustrating to try to explain to a frightened child that a monster or witch or some other imaginary thing isn’t real. We adults have already learned that, read more here.

 

Free Introduction to Herbalism by MCS’ Outdoor Classroom Teacher

You’re invited to attend a free introductory class on herbalism through Tea Time on the Trail with Donda Hartsfield, MCS’ Outdoor Classroom Extraordinaire.
Herbalism, or herbology or herbal medicine, is the use of plants for medicinal purposes, and the study of such use.

This Saturday, April 2nd, from 12:00 pm – 3:00 pm, there will be a free introductory course. Please meet at the head of Thayne’s Trail in Millcreek Canyon.

Please RSVP by April 1st.

If you have any questions or comments, please contact Donda Hartsfield at Miss_Donda@yahoo.com.

 

DondaHartsfieldHerbalism.pdf

Spring Camp 2016

This year, Spring Camp brought an underground adventure to life through the exploration of caves. Monday, our students learned about the formation of caves and the different types of caves that exist throughout our planet. Students worked together to construct a large cave.

This year, Spring Camp brought an underground adventure to life through the exploration of caves. Monday, our students learned about the formation of caves and the different types of caves that exist throughout our planet. Students worked together to construct a large cave.

Wednesday, students learned about the different cave dwellers and the adapt to their environment. Students helped to create works of art on the cave walls and created bats to hang from the ceiling of the cave. Thursday, students learned about speleologists, those who study caves. Students learned about the equipment and safety gear speleologists use to explore and learn about caves safely. Each student made a hardhat with LED lights to explore their cave in the dark.

Friday, the students explored the deepest and largest caves around the world. Each students each made their own cave dioramas with personal touches of artwork, inhabitants, and formations they have been learning about.

Thank you to our wonderful Camp Director, Corey Day, for putting this incredible camp together. Also, to all of our wonderful staff who worked and helped implement a wonderful week of learning and discovery.

Our Girls We Sponsor Through COEEF: Celebrate Education for Women

“We will continue our journey to our destination of peace and education. No one can stop us. We will speak up for our rights and we will bring change to our voice. We believe in the power and the strength of our words.Our words can change the whole world because we are all together, united for the cause of education. And if we want to achieve our goal, then let us empower ourselves with the weapon of knowledge and let us shield ourselves with unity and togetherness.”

Montessori Community School donates to six beautiful young women through the Children of Ethiopia Education Fund. In celebration of International Women’s Day, March 8th, we thought we would showcase our girls. In May, MCS does an annual “Fun Run” where we raise the funds to go toward these wonderful girls. We plan on sending letters to each lovely young women. In preparation for the “Fun Run” we encourage you to talk about the program with your students in supplement to what our teachers do to prepare our students to help give and donate. Perhaps, you can make your own cards and/ or send pictures with your students which they, in turn, can drop off to the MCS Office.

This program is about giving girls the opportunity to receive an education in a country where this opportunity is slim to none. Please discuss and think about the importance, value, and effects an education can hold for these girls and their families. Click the links to see full PDF and read their letters.

 

Bethlehem-Genbaw.pdf

 

Feven-Walelegn.pdf

 

Bethlehem-Eyob.pdf

 

Hewan-Yohannes.pdf

 

Ayananddis-Mekonnen.pdf

 

Bethlehem-Messeret.pdf

MCS and Friends for Sight Review

Last week, Friends for Sight came to our school and gave free eye exams to all of the Early Childhood students, 1st graders, 3rd graders, and 5th graders. Please see the letter below and respond if you have any questions, concerns, or feedback for Friends for Sight.

Dear Montessori Community School,

Thank you for allowing Friends for Sight trained volunteers to come to your school and perform vision screenings for your children. In order for us to continue to improve our vision screening program it is important to get feedback from those we help. Please take a minute and let us know any positive or negative comments about your experience. We also love hearing directly from parents whose children we screen, so please encourage parents to contact us directly. We can help those children who qualify for assistance to receive a free eye exam and glasses through our Sight for Students program just click here.

You can reply to this email or through our website, just click here.

Thank you,

Camille

Friends for Sight

801-524-2020

2020@friendsforsight.org

www.friendsforsight.org

Parent Education Night – Preparing for Adolescence

MCS Parents,

Please join us for Parent Education Night next Tuesday, March 8th, from 6:30-8pm. Child care will be available but must be signed up for in advance. There is a sign up sheet in the office.

Melissa DeVries, Ph.D, MCS School Psychologist and parent will be talking about adolescence…because its never too early to prepare. Below is an excerpt from Melissa about her upcoming presentation.

“We should be like lighthouses for our children—beacons of light on a stable shoreline from which they can safely navigate the world. We must make certain they don’t crash against the rocks, but trust they have the capacity to learn to ride the waves on their own.” –-Kenneth R. Ginsburg, MD, MS Ed, FAAP

Adolescence is a uniquely challenging, yet rewarding period of development for both parents and teens. Teens are trying to find the answer to “who am I?” by striving for more independence, seeking new experiences. Meanwhile, parents are realizing their time and direct influence is decreasing and they may fear “how will I ever be able to let them go?” or “are they ready?”

No matter your child’s age, it is never too early, or too late, to start thinking about adolescence. Not just getting through the here and now, but preparing your children to survive and thrive far into the future. Join us for an informative evening of education and discussion about parenting during the adolescent years presented by MCS School Psychologist, Melissa DeVries, PhD. Information presented will include an overview of research on adolescent brain development, and parenting strategies from a leading expert in adolescent medicine with an emphasis on how these strategies fit with a Montessori perspective.

Melissa DeVries, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist who provides contracted psychological services to the Montessori Community School and Valley Behavioral Health. She holds a Ph.D. in School Psychology from the University of Arizona. Dr. DeVries has co-edited textbooks and numerous book chapters on various topics within child and adolescent mental health and developmental disorders. Dr. DeVries provides psychotherapy and behavioral consultation for children and adolescents, parenting education and classroom consultation. She also possesses extensive background and experience in comprehensive evaluation for learning, behavioral, and emotional disorders across the lifespan. In her free time, Dr. DeVries enjoys playing recreational soccer, skiing, running and rock climbing.

The Basics of Montessori Learning

As Montessori teachers and parents…

 

1. We follow the teachings of Dr. Maria Montessori (1870-1952). She was a medical doctor, a teacher, a philosopher, and an anthropologist. Her progressive view of children was way beyond her time, and her writing is still very relevant today. Interested in reading some of her work yourself? You should! Try The Secret of Childhood for starters. Read more about her life and take theMontessori challenge for fun.

2. We understand that children of different ages have different needs and abilities. We study child development theory (for example, sensitive periods) and make sure that our classrooms and homes have developmentally appropriate activities and expectations. When something new is discovered about the growing brain, we are taking notes, ready to back it up with our educational practice. (More often than not, the research simply confirms the Montessori method!)

 

 

3. We observe our children. The child has so much to teach us about learning. By watching closely, we can modify our lessons and materials to best suit the child’s interests and growth. We try to anticipate what the child will need next and make sure that this experience is available for when the child is ready to explore the subject or skill. We call this “following the child”.

4. We believe that the environment itself is the best teacher, and we prepare it like a mama bird would craft a proper nest for her babies. Rather than dictating what a child should learn and when, we design the classroom or home to fit the needs of the child, rich experiences balanced by beauty and order. This takes a great amount of effort, but we are rewarded when a child enters and is inspired to learn. In a typical Montessori classroom, you would see objects in baskets, trays, or boxes arranged on a shelf attractively. Each work contains a purposeful work that is designed to teach a specific concept. (Pssst: We don’t randomly select concepts to teach, remember? We base them on our observations of the child.)

 

5. We model grace and courtesy (good manners), treating our children as we wish ourselves to be treated. We use calm voices when teaching and speak with respect in regard to the children’s feelings. We carry ourselves with poise and handle objects with care. We believe that the children are acutely observing us even when we aren’t aware of it, and they will mimic our behaviors and attitudes. We know that humans aren’t perfect, but we really try to bring out the best in ourselves.

6. We recognize that children are unique individuals who are not likely to master the exact same concepts or have the same interests at the same time. We celebrate this uniqueness and allow each child to develop at his or her pace. We believe that learning is a natural process that develops spontaneously. When we place our trust in the child, we are often surprised at the immense amount of learning that takes place through the child’s interaction with his or her world.

 

7. We do not use rewards and punishments to force children to comply with rules or to combat ill behavior. We believe that each child is on the way to developing self discipline and that the rewards should be intrinsic (within oneself) rather than externally imposed. When a child misbehaves, we first examine the reasons why the child is exhibiting those behaviors (hungry? tired? overstimulated? testing boundaries?) and then we contemplate whether a change in the prepared environment would help or if we need to teach certain problem-solving skills to prevent another occurrence. Never do we use shame or humiliation. We try to help the child understand appropriate behavior in a social context in a gentle, firm manner.

8. We believe that children learn best when they are free to move their bodies throughout the day. Children have physical rights. They should not be constrained to desks. They should be allowed to move around in their environment, visit the bathroom as often as they like, and work in a variety of sitting or standing positions. We want to teach our children to respect their bodies and control their movements, and by allowing this freedom, we feel that this helps the growing brain learn more effectively. We encourage this independence, but also teach respect for others. No one’s freedom should infringe upon another’s right to concentrate.

 

9. We believe that the materials a child works with (one could just as easily call them “toys”) should be carefully chosen to support the current developmental stage. With few exceptions, natural materials are preferred, and the works themselves should be arranged attractively on the shelf. Concrete experiences are always offered first and abstract thinking presented later, when the child has a firm grasp on the concept. Maria Montessori herself developed and sanctioned specific materials for learning that are considered classic and essential to a Montessori classroom.  You might want to take a look at the pink tower, the moveable alphabet, or the golden beads. Oh, and yes, we call it work and not play. Really it’s just semantics, so don’t let it bother you.

10. To Montessori teachers, presenting a lesson to a child is an art form. For example, for the 3-6 age child, we captivate the child’s attention by talking very little during the lesson and instead making our movements slow and deliberate. This allows the child to focus on our actions and remember the little details that may be forgotten if we were speaking at the same time. One of the classic Montessori lesson techniques you might want to investigate is called The Three Period Lesson.

11. We believe that education can change the world for the better. We are advocates for peace. The children themselves represent a “bright, new hope for mankind”. We feel that the work we do as educators, guiding children toward self reliance and compassion, is incredibly important in the grand scheme of future life on Earth. How our children are treated as babies is going to impact our entire civilization when they are all grown up and making decisions that affect others. We are humbled by the great possibilities that exist within the tiniest of humans, and we respect their inner wisdom.

Promoting Growth with Love

I was touched by this lovely article this morning and wanted to share it with you.

Enjoy!

Turning Fear Into Love
Written by Maren Schmidt on February 19th, 2016

Fear is a powerful motivator and behavior modifier. Fear, though, does not promote growth. Fear doesn’t promote kindness, caring or compassion in ourselves. Fear doesn’t open our hearts to new experiences. Fear doesn’t connect us to other people.

What is the opposite of fear?

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